Are you beautiful ?

Happy Weekend pretty girlies. First of all, I would like to thank you for dropping by into my blog site. If you are new here, let me introduce myself to you, I am Graxie Salcedo, a newbie beauty blogger who promises to give beauty reviews, insights and articles about anything under the sun that are closely related to beauty and vanity. And tonight, I will be posting a write-up about bullying and criticisms . Particularly, bullying and criticisms  that pertains to physical attributes.

 Have you experienced being called "pandak", "negra", "laki ilong", "kabayo", "laki mata", "isda","baluga", "bitch", "kapal make-up", "puro make-up" or whatsoever? Have you experienced being bullied by a group of people who criticize you because of how you look? People who talk behind your back and laugh about the physical imperfections you have?  How did you feel?

To answer my questions, yes, I did experience those things. It pained me a lot. It really hurt me emotionally and even hated myself for how I looked like. But I believe that now, I have already survived and I really feel good about myself. Why?   This is my story.

I was born with a dark complexion, big eyes and such . I was an unattractive child. Growing up, I hear people calling me "negra", "laki mata", etc. During class officer elections, I was the type of student you'll never expect of being elected as the class muse. During intramurals or united nations celebration,  when teachers would get representatives for muses, in my heart I was wishing to be chosen by my teacher to compete for those events. But also in my mind, I understood, that someone prettier in our class will be the one. Every Christmas parties or Valentine's Day, my friends would receive gifts, chocolates, balloons and flowers. And never did i expect to receive any, because I knew that nobody's interested on me. Because I looked ordinary, I was dark, I was unattractive.

When I was turning into "dalaga" mode, I already got used to the feeling of being unattractive.. I embraced my complexion and just dwelt on my stronger points; I get good grades, I was an honor student, was a good student leader at school and I can sing.  I have good friends and I was happy. As a lady, I already started fixing myself and was trying to look beautiful. I learned the power of make-up and I learned to enhance my features. By then, people started praising me. "Uy, ang ganda mo". It was heaven to my ears. Right there and then,I started becoming kikay, To clarify, it's not all about make-up, the make-up just enhanced my features which made me feel better. I felt beautiful, I felt good. And then people started telling , "make-up lang naman yan", "puro make-up" "di mo ba kaya ng walang make-up" " yung ganda puro sa utak napunta" .

When I entered the career-woman world, started to earn, I already had funds for beautification. I started enhancing my complexion. Although I embraced the "morena graxie", in my heart, I still wanted to become mestiza. I'm curious of the feeling. So I took glutathione pills, used tons of whitening soaps and lotion and yes, I became fairer. Of course, I was so proud with how it turned out. Compared to how I looked like before, I was quite different now. And then people started telling, "pumuti lang dahil sa gluta" "utak lang naman ang meron ka, pero ganda? ewan ko lang ".  It was not directly uttered, but that was the implication.

What do I really mean with my story.  First, I want to tell you girls, that no matter how you look like, dark, unattractive, mestiza or pretty, "THEY ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY". That is the reality. When you hear people's criticisms, yes, it would be painful. You'll really feel the pain. That time, I did not understand why they need to do such. If I was unattractive to their eyes, why do they have to say it? But I realized that when I was ugly, they said something. When I was enhanced, they said something. They won't stop saying things. You just have to take words that are beneficial, leave those unhelpful ones.

Second is, if you are asking why they say things about your physical imperfections. It is because their basis of beauty is what they see on tv, what they see in the magazines. But did you know that to be able to be called "BEAUTIFUL", there must be a perfect symmetry? Which means, that there is an ideal measurement of the distance between your forehead and your eyebrows, your nose and your eyes or such. Do we have a ruler to measure those in order to call someone beautiful? Of course not. Faces I consider beautiful may not be beautiful to you. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as the saying goes. You are beautiful to your parents' eyes, to your friends' eyes but most especially you must be beautiful to your own eyes in order to conquer people's criticisms. Just like what happened to me, when I was a child, I listened to those people who made me feel ugly that's why for me, I was really ugly. But when I started feeling beautiful and ignored unnecessary comments, I really felt beautiful,

Last is, just do what you love to do. If you love putting make-up, go. If you don't like it, go. Just never forget to feel beautiful. True enough that there are taller girls, girls with fairer skin, girls who look like heaven-sent but believe me we are all equal. We just consistently look for the things we don't possess. If I would lay what I have in the table and a  Super Model would also lay what she has, I believe we are still equal. For example;

Graxie :

Beauty- 30 %
Confidence- 20%
Positivity - 50 %

________________

TOTAL : 100 %

Super Model:

Beauty - 80%

Confidence- 10 %

Positivity - 10 %

_______________

TOTAL : 100 

That was just an example haha. What I mean is, we are all equal. We just need to enhance what we lack in. No matter how you look like, no matter what image you want to take for yourself, it's still you who will make yourself feel secured. Always remember that insecure people are deficient in assurance, beset by fear and anxiety.


 God never made an unattractive masterpiece. Believe me, you are beautiful . :)